22. July 2013
I’ve never been impulsive. Practical and plan-full, I carefully calculate every possible outcome before making most decisions. Is it the best use of my time? Does it make sense financially, etc.?
So, when I received a wedding invitation recently from a childhood chum in Iowa, I naturally began weighing the pros and cons of making the trip. Gina and I had been classmates and friends from fourth grade through high school. Together with our BFF’s, Mary Beth and Anne, we’d shared years of sleepovers and birthday parties, homecomings and prom nights.
But our lives took us in different directions…coming together rarely at high school reunions, through Christmas cards and on Facebook. But looking at that invitation, something snapped inside. “Why not?” I thought. Maybe it’s not practical – flying all the way to Iowa for a 20-minute wedding ceremony. Maybe I shouldn’t spend the money. We need a new fridge, after all. So I bounced it off my husband.
“I want to go to Gina’s wedding,” I announced to Tom. “Way to take a walk on the wild side,” my husband said with just a hint of sarcasm. With his encouraging, “Go! It’ll be fun,” I booked my flight.
I know. A trip to Iowa may not sound like much to you. But for me, it’s just one of several mini-adventures I’ve been taking lately. I think last year’s cancer scare is one reason….wanting to live each day to the fullest.
But I’ve also been inspired recently by San Diegan, Bob Goff, who’s written a wonderful book called, “Love Does.” Positive and uplifting – like a box of chocolates, I’ve been devouring one delightful chapter at a time…the perfect bedtime snack!
Neither practical nor plan-full, Goff gives new meaning to living in the moment –taking his readers along on his life’s journey as he discovers a “secretly incredible life in an ordinary world.”
Get this: As a college student he spent 16 days in the Pacific Ocean with five guys and a crate of canned meat. As a father, he took his kids on a world tour to eat ice cream with heads of state. He made friends in Uganda, and they liked him so much, he became the Ugandan consul. He pursued his wife for three years before she agreed to date him. His grades weren’t good enough to get into law school, so he sat on a bench outside the dean’s office for seven days until they finally let him enroll.
“Love Does” has become a New York Times bestseller and it’s no surprise. What fuels the book’s impact is love…without constraints. But it’s not, as the cover copy reveals, “the kind of love that stops at thoughts and feelings. Bob Goff is convinced love takes action. He believes “Love Does.”
Bob’s faith-based musings and stories have been an incredible inspiration to me. I’m beginning to see that sometimes it’s ok to throw caution to the wind, do something outrageous and become “secretly incredible.” I encourage you to check out “Love Does.” It’s light, fun, inspiring….maybe even life-changing.
By the way, the wedding was a blast. Anne and Mary Beth came, too. What a joy to celebrate our dear friend, Gina’s special day together. Thanks to Bob Goff, I’m learning love doesn’t always just send a card. Sometimes, love “does!”
Ready for my next adventure! Care to join me? I’m thinking about a trip to New Zealand! Wheee!!
BTW, “Love Does” makes a great beach read. Enjoy.
Contact Carol by emailing her at Carol@palomarhealth.org.